So, this poem is more like a collection of my thoughts. I am not schizophrenic or anything– I have a twin sister, so, that is the “our” in the poem. Two years ago today, my mom was diagnosed with a uterine sarcoma… the “a” seems so trivial; however, it claimed her life, and because of that it really should be “the…” Oh that little articles that emphasize so much specificity. Anyway, it was two days before our 30th birthday…
I really do not think life gets easier; however, I have had to make is liveable for myself. What I would not give to have her back, but I know that is not an option. Lately, I lie awake at night with the image of her and the death gargle on my mind– what I would not give for that to completely disappear. Anyway, here is a poem (or something to that effect) for our 32nd birthday…
Our First Birthday…
There will be no phone call at dawn….singing.
A tone omitted in the annual chorus…
No card with your handwriting on it…
No cake you have arranged to pick up….
No birthday bag with tissue paper, creepily placed.
Misplaced on our first birthday…
We have been ripped from our mother’s womb, again.
No longer can she cradle her thirty-two year old dames.
No one to grab our hand and say “we girlfriends, aren’t we?”
How we once scoffed “mooooom,” when she said that,
but now, what an melodious memory to our ears.
Dad will try his hardest to make your seat
at the restaurant table present.
Gifts, he will try to buy with your ghostly advice.
Mom, could you come visit today, we will wonder.
Just a hug or a “be careful driving home” would be enough
this year. I promise, I will not grimace with your motherly
gaze, telling me to phone when I get home.
There will be no phone call at dawn for the rest of our breaths.